Mental Care Facts & Health Tips

Loving someone is not at all a bad thing but many times even people don’t know that whether they actually love the person whom they are thinking or it is just an attraction. This article will help realizing you that’s what it is love or just attraction.

There are few things that can help you in this matter and you have to go for them.

Determine your happiness

This is the first thing that you have to do. There is no doubt that when you are with him you are happy and excited as well but the fact is that whether you are happy when he is not with you. Try to know that whether you are happy during his absence or not. If it makes you feel that you are not then may be the answer to this question is love.

Try to know your limit

Try to know what you can do for him easily. Can you go to meet him if he calls you anytime? Can you leave your important work to meet him? Up to what limit you can go to make him happy. If you can do all these things for him without hesitation this is definitely love.

Try to know how your day was when you don’t take him

In case you are out from the town and don’t have conversation for the last 24 hours, does it makes you feel that you have not talked with him since a longer period of time? Does the time away from him appear to be torture to you? Do you often wait for his phone calls when he is out of the city or not with you?  If the answer to this question is yes then surely you are in love. Also many times if you realize that you are dying to meet him and spending even an hour without him appears to be so long then this is a clear indication that you are in love.

Try to know what exactly makes you happy

If a majority of the time when you are happy is the time when you are with him then definitely you are in love.

When you find yourself in love may be you don’t know what to do after this and what exactly you have to do after this is

• Don’t waste the time and talk to him directly until it’s too late.
• If you cannot talk to him take the help of a friend at this stage.
• Try to make him realize that you love him so that he proposes you himself if you think you cannot propose him.
• Make it sure that he is not already committed to someone else.
• Try to know what he likes and do exactly something in favor of that.

In case all these things don’t happen to you and you realize that you can even stay happy without him and can spend time better in his absence and you really don’t wait for him to call you then this is a clear cut indication that this is not a love and maybe it is just attraction.

Divorce rates are on the rise these days. There are many reasons why couples decide to part ways. Incompatibility, cheating spouses, financial differences, and infertility are some of those reasons why husband and wife part ways. But many couples nowadays cite seemingly ridiculous grounds for a divorce. One such reason (which we will discuss at length here) is the problem of having an overweight spouse!

This may seem absurd to those who are into a blissful marriage. But the fact is that an increasing number of people today have moved away from their spouses because their spouses are grossly out of shape. But then, is it morally justifiable?

It may not be morally justifiable, but a marriage is not just a blend of hearts and minds. Physical beauty of their partner is a really important consideration for most people, even though they might not admit it. Human inclination towards physical beauty is the basis of most sexual relationships.

For a marriage to click, it is important that the husband and wife have a happy sexual life. A satisfying physical relationship can bring a couple really close for life. But because physical fitness is of utmost importance for sexual performance, being overweight can be a great problem. If your spouse is going out of shape, you may feel that this is definitely not the person you married!

It is not hatred. It is definitely not loathing. But you cannot prevent yourself from feeling repulsed at the sight of your obese spouse. Repulsion inspires detachment, detachment causes differences and differences drive the final nail in the coffin of your marriage – divorce!

It is natural if you do not crave for physical proximity with your spouse when the mere sight of your spouse reminds you of King Kong! It is also natural for you to feel guilty about your own repulsions. But what is important is how you save your marriage. You cannot behave as an escapist in the first place. If you love your better half, this is the time to express it. Make your spouse feel loved, wanted and important, instead of filing for a divorce.

But at the same time, don’t let your feeling pile up inside you. Express your feelings without hurting your spouse by choosing your words and actions carefully. You can talk about the various health hazards associated with obesity and urge your partner to lose weight. Talking about how obesity is coming in the way of romance, may be counterproductive.

Evince urgency in your quest to convince your spouse. Once your spouse has acknowledged the desperate need to shed weight, have them join the gym, maintain a low-calorie diet, do fitness yoga etc. Visit the gym with your spouse whenever possible. Buy workout DVDs and magazines for your spouse. If your partner has sacrificed gorging on certain foods, you should also give such foods a miss, as a show of support.

Do all that you can, to display your interest and care. There should be a sense of involvement on either side since marriage is a symbiotic relationship. Be patient, loving and inspiring. This will surely get your spouse back to normal shape, and you back to your spouse. And remember, divorce should not even cross your mind once!

It is great when a couple can decide at the same time that they are ready to have children. For some folks it just isn’t that easy. Many times women find themselves ready to have children while their spouses aren’t quite prepared for the challenge. Here’s some advice for those of you who may be in this situation.

Let’s Wait

If your husband simply isn’t ready for a child at this particular moment there is probably a good reason for his fears. Like it or not women are more emotional thinkers. Men tend to think more rationally especially when it comes to child rearing. It is vitally important to keep communication open in a marriage and this is no different. Sit down with your husband and discuss why he doesn’t want to have a child right now. You might find that he has some pretty good reasons for wanting to wait.

What to Do and What Not to Do

Regardless of what your husband’s reasons are for waiting, he has the right to request that you wait. It is not a good idea to force parenthood on anyone. If your husband isn’t ready for a child then you should never use deceptive practices to try and get pregnant without his knowledge.  Stopping the pill or puncturing your diaphragm might get your pregnant but the results are probably going to be a lot less than desirable if your husband isn’t interested in children. There is no excuse for bringing a child into the world with someone who doesn’t want them. Don’t be so quick to assume that your husband will change his mind when he sees the baby. Even if he does change his mind when the baby arrives, there will always be the fact that your betrayed his trust lingering in the relationship as a dark cloud.

Keeping the Relationship Intact

Being in a relationship with someone who has no desire to have children can be extremely difficult for those who have a great desire to have their own children someday. Ideally this is something that you will discuss before you get married and realize that this person may never change. If you are already in the marriage before you accept or realize that your husband truly doesn’t want to have children it doesn’t have to be the end.

Make sure that your partner knows how important having children is to you. If your husband still does not want to have children then you may have a problem that can’t be rectified. When you come to a situation like this the best thing to do in order to save your marriage is to seek counseling. Hopefully through mediation you can come to a better understanding of each other’s desires.

If counseling still does not help you to come to a conclusion you will have to eventually make a decision between your husband and having a child. This is one of the most difficult decisions that most women will ever make and should not be taken lightly.

It is not fair to force a man to have a child when he doesn’t want one. It is also not fair to stay in a marriage where the partners have such different goals for the future. Having children is a very big decision that you will have many years to come to a conclusion on. Neither the birth of a child nor the end of a marriage should be taken lightly. Make sure you take plenty of time to come to decision before doing either.

Just about everyone has had the misfortune of falling in love with a person who did not love them back.  It is a very common occurrence especially with young people. Though many people would argue about the depth of love that is not returned, it is a powerful emotion for the person who is in love. Unrequited love is simply a natural part of the human existence. We will often fall in love with other people who either do not share the same feelings or do not know how we feel. Here are some tips for dealing with this terrible emotion.

Acceptance

A big part of getting past unrequited love revolves around acceptance. You must accept that the object of your affection does not have the same feelings for you. If you do not accept this you are going to waste a lot of your life pining away for someone who will probably never acknowledge your feelings and more than likely doesn’t deserve them.

It is impossible to move on from an unrequited love affair when you are still clinging to the hope that things will play out the way you want them to. Shut the door and move on. Making a clean break when you realize you are in over your head emotionally is the best thing to do for both parties involved.

Spend Time with Others

One of the best things that you can do to get over an unrequited love affair is to seek the solace of others. Take more time out to spend with your family and friends. Date other people, though it might not be all that fun at first you might discover that you can feel pretty warm and fuzzy about someone else through the experience of dating others.

Avoid the Object of Your Unrequited Affection

You should if possible try to get away from the lover who does not return your feelings. Many time love affairs that are unrequited revolve around characters that have little or no interest in you but have no problem stringing you along. This is definitely a time to bail out and avoid the other person. Otherwise you are just going to torture yourself.

Other times unrequited love is lavished on a person whose made it very clear about how they feel for us, but for whom we still have feelings. These people should be avoided as well if at all possible. Though the relationship isn’t quite as toxic as the first scenario, it can still be pretty painful.

Regardless of the situation if someone is in another relationship or simply has no interest in you but you are in love with them spending a lot of time with this is going to be torture. You need to make all possible moves to avoid an unrequited love object. Do not spend time alone with this person, do not spend hours on the phone with them, spend your time seeking out a lover who will be able to reciprocate your feelings.